The past two weeks have been a little busy; we finished our psych evaluation with a 567 true/false question personality test (MMPI). Dr. Coleman said please answer honestly to the best of your ability, the test was built to assess different psych disease states and it can also score those that are trying to trick the test. I have taken a ton of these because at my previous employer these tests were everything and were used for a variety of circumstances including climbing the ladder in any direction you had to take a different one or there was an updated version every 6 months. So as you all know me I was nervous to take this test just as I have not been a test taker for my ENTIRE life; I always get anxious and cannot concentrate. No matter how I study or what I do, I get nervous. As Matthew sat with me in the waiting room, he looks at me and knows I am nervous and laughs. I had to laugh too as there is no reason to be nervous but all I kept thinking about was this is the line to get our babies so I need to be perfect. So I am going to share with you some thoughts that went through my brain as I am answering these 567 questions. "Are you afraid of lightning? True; Have you ever wanted to be a member of the opposite sex? My brain says well sometimes when I have to pee outside at DMB concerts but I'll answer False; Do you think that others can read your mind? Well is you are asking me this because of I have honest facial expressions then True; Do you find yourself thinking faster then you speak? True; Do you love your mother? True; Do you enjoy being at large parties with a lot of noise and a lot of people? True; Do you have moments of complete excitement for no reason? False...the test measures depression, hysteria, hypochondriasis, paranoia, social introversion... We shall see how it comes back! :)
This week we also got our past two year tax returns notarized and they are now on their way to the Secretary of State to be apostilled. Today we went to our MD to get our medical testing done; 4 vials of blood drawn and a skin tests. We have to wait for those results and then get them notarized and apostilled. My skin test was still bleeding before we left so the RN gave me a bandaid. When we got home I tried to take it off and MAN did that hurt. I said to Matt "Babe don't they make ouchless bandaids" and his response was "I think you are a bit old for those." I have more arm hair then a child!!!
Our placement agent, Nichole emailed us today with approval for our introductory letter, now we need to get that notarized as well. Nichole is leaving for Colombia tomorrow for 10 days! Cannot wait to see her pictures and here all the news of what is going on with the ICBF and Colombia in general!
Monday, October 17, 2011
Thursday, October 6, 2011
Color aware
Some blurbs from our Adoption Learning Partners course work; we need to complete 10 hours of online courses for Colombia since it is a HAGUE country. Food for thought.
"Consider the spotlight. Children in conspicuous families often feel like a spotlight is shining on them when intrusive questions are asked. When you respond, make sure that whatever you say affirms both your child and your family as a whole. That will take the spotlight off the child and put it on the family, where it belongs.
It means that your family stands out.
It means that your family is different.
It means that, because of racial differences, your child's adoption is obvious, public, and visible.
It means that you can't deal with issues of adoption when you choose to, but whenever comments, questions or odd looks are sent in your direction."
Some questions could be "Is that your real child or are they real siblings?; How much did you pay for them?; That's so nice of you; Was their mother one of those crackheads?"
How are we going to respond to these people? Sarcasm, humor or education. How are our children going to feel when they hear others asking these questions? How do we respond to ensure we are not singling out the babes and responding as a unit; one family? Is it ignorance and/or lack of social awareness?
"Consider the spotlight. Children in conspicuous families often feel like a spotlight is shining on them when intrusive questions are asked. When you respond, make sure that whatever you say affirms both your child and your family as a whole. That will take the spotlight off the child and put it on the family, where it belongs.
It means that your family stands out.
It means that your family is different.
It means that, because of racial differences, your child's adoption is obvious, public, and visible.
It means that you can't deal with issues of adoption when you choose to, but whenever comments, questions or odd looks are sent in your direction."
Some questions could be "Is that your real child or are they real siblings?; How much did you pay for them?; That's so nice of you; Was their mother one of those crackheads?"
How are we going to respond to these people? Sarcasm, humor or education. How are our children going to feel when they hear others asking these questions? How do we respond to ensure we are not singling out the babes and responding as a unit; one family? Is it ignorance and/or lack of social awareness?
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