Stress ceiling

Yesterday we had our first "formal" meeting with our psychiatrist. We found her through Leah @ A Red Thread. Dr. Coleman rents out Leah's office space. We had the option to use a psych through our placement agency however we would never meet the person as she resides in CA. What an investment? NOT. So instead we are using Dr. Anne Coleman; she is an adoptive mom of two gorgeous Chinese girls, not bio siblings and an adoptee herself. She's amazing; we spent about an hour and forty-five minutes talking through our life as a couple = our infamous first introduction and the history from then on; how are families have reacted to us adopting; are we prepared for the potential issues (attachment, grief, loss, anger, ambiguity) that could arise in adopting older children; are our families prepared to handle this as well; what we think is appropriate discipline for our children; how do we deal with stress and what is our stress ceiling...etc... So many stories to share and so little time, I remember back in Speech class at CCRI when I had to stand up there and discuss my topic on "most admired person in my life" or what not it seemed that 5 minutes lasted FOREVER! Now in speaking about this ENORMOUS adventure we are embarking on and seeing my husband so excited when he discusses the aspect of having children to another adult, this is the best ride EVER! The best part about all this for me right now is the silent communication Matt and I have; when we are asked a questions whether it be a couple question or a individual question we both look at each other with an awareness of what is going to be told exactly. Driving back and forth to NH many moons ago to see Matt was a great experience, but the coolest part was the amount of phone conversations we had during the weeks apart when we knew what we both wanted and when; we were not like most couples who got to hang out all the time every day so our relationship was initially built on asking a lot of questions and answering things that you would not normally answer to early on in a relationship...its cool to be on the same team without even really recognizing it until now.